Life: Have you ever noticed a person who is sitting alone on a beach, who is eating alone in the restaurant, who is traveling alone, if yes, then by looking at them you must have pitied them, you must have felt sad for them by thinking how lonely they are, But actual reality can be different. In reality, they must be enjoying their own company, they must be enjoying their personal time and privacy, Travelling, eating and enjoying with friends or others can be really very rewarding and enjoyable, but Being alone and enjoying your own self can also be rewarding and joyful.
Being with friends and loved ones is the best thing in the world, but knowing your own self is also very important, when you stay alone, when you travel alone when you move out of your house alone with no support at that time you know yourself more, you know your strength and weakness, every time when you stay alone and do something alone you return home becoming stronger, Travelling isn’t the only time being alone is a valuable experience, Being alone and happy can be powerful experience at any aspect of your life, staying and enjoying moments with your loved ones can be the best feeling you can ever have, but staying alone can also be the happiest moment of your life.
Every individual has different meaning or perspective related to happiness, some feel that staying with friends is the most joyful moment, some feel that staying with family is the most peaceful moment and some says that staying with a partner, girlfriend or boyfriend is the best moment, everyone has their own viewpoint related to happiness, no matter what is your view, the only thing which actually matters is to be happy, happiness is what matters the most, whether you are with your family, friends or alone, being happy or staying happy in the moment is what matters the most, hence if you are alone still you can be happy, because when you are alone you know yourself, you know what are your strengths and weaknesses are, you know how to stay strong even in the worst situations and you know to find solutions for every problem, you learn to stay strong and brave.
There are some people who face betrayals and double faced people in their lives, and that incident make them lonely, usually everyone feels that people who are alone they can never be happy, no that’s not true, people who are alone can be happy too. We have a mindset we feel that loneliness and being alone is the same thing, no its not, being alone means to have some privacy, to enjoy our personal time, and personal time is as important as social time.
Hence never confuse loneliness with being alone, loneliness happens when persons have no one in their lives, when they lost every special person in their lives, when they stop trusting people, when they face betrayals liars and doubled standard people in their lives, these incidents make them sad and make them lonely, whereas being alone is a personal choice, people choose to be alone for some time, because they need their privacy, they need their personal time, they need time to settle in any situation, they need time to know themselves or others better, hence understand that people can live alone happily, people can be alone and happy too.
There are few points:-
1) Know what you enjoy the most
Here you need to know the things which makes you happy, what are the things which you can do alone happily, it can be your hobby or the curriculum activities which you enjoy the most, when you come to know the things which make you happy, then your confusion will get clear, you will come to know what are the things you like to do with friends and family and what are the things you enjoy doing alone, for example, some people love to travel alone because they want to enjoy their travelling peacefully, some people hate to travel alone because they need someone’s company, hence you need to be clear with your likes and dislikes what you love doing with others and what you love doing alone.
2) Busy life needs peace
we live in a busy world, we don’t get time for ourselves, hence alone time is a must, you should enjoy your personal time, you should engage yourself in doing happening activities, should meditate, should exercise and should work on improving yourself, alone time should improve you and should motivate you, alone time is for your self-benefits not for self-doubt and demotivation.
3) Make a list
You need to make a list of things which makes you happy, you should write down the activities which make you feel good and motivated and should give yourself a fresh start, should start doing things which makes you happy for example, start mentioning the activities in the list which makes you happy but you never tried doing it before, while writing you’ll get excited and that excitement will motivate you and make you happy.
4) Appreciate yourself
When you are in your alone time, do self-appreciation, enjoy being alone, appreciate yourself for what you are, self-appreciation makes you believe in yourself, self-acceptance make you understand your self-worth, self-appreciation let you know that it’s not the world or the people who make you happy but it’s you and your own will and believe which makes you happy, happiness comes within you, not from the outer world, you can be happy at any moment in any situation, whether you are alone or not, happiness is all about You and your thinking.
5) Exercise, meditate, read make a healthy routine
do exercise, meditate, read, gain knowledge, form a healthy routine, Reading, doing exercise and meditation is something which needs your alone time, it keeps you healthy and motivated, this alone healthy routine keeps you healthy and peaceful, hence involve yourself in healthy routine, never waste your alone special time by being sad, angry or frustrated, enjoy your alone time knowing yourself better, knowing your strength and weaknesses, if you love traveling, pack your bag, plan your weekends don’t wait for people to be with you, just move out and see how you enjoy traveling with your own self, just enjoy your own company, don’t be shy to have a date with your own self, go out for a dinner, sit alone and enjoy your dinner or lunch, don’t worry what others will say, just be yourself and enjoy your “Me” Moment.😊
Do Share your thoughts about alone time, do share about how you enjoy your alone time, what activities you do in Your “ME” Time.